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Balance as a conversation

Golden Gate Park, morning practice.

Balance, when I'm in it, doesn't feel still. It feels like two things meeting and not collapsing into each other.

I learned this in handstand.

Everyone in my yoga teacher training watched me work on Adho Mukha Vrksasana over the course of a year. Some days I found it. Some days I fell out. Some days I didn't get up at all. What I figured out, eventually, is that a handstand isn't balanced because I've found some perfect fixed point. It's balanced because the press down through my hands is exactly matched by the reach up through my feet.

Let either end go passive, and the whole thing collapses.

The balance is the conversation between those two forces. Not the absence of either.

The Sutras call this sthira and sukha. Steadiness and ease. Sutra 2.46 says the pose should be both. Most beginners hear that as a contradiction. It isn't. It's the description of what a pose actually feels like when it's working. Sthira without sukha is rigid. Sukha without sthira is collapsed. The pose is alive in the space between.

Most of my day is spent in my head. Focused, analytical, thinking through problems. The yoga practice is the counterweight. It insists you get into the body and do the thing, and no amount of thinking gets you through a handstand. That emptying is the point. The practice gives me somewhere the mind can follow the body, not the other way around.

What the practice has shifted most is how I relate to the imbalanced moments. The days when I'm too far in one direction. Running too hot. Too depleted. Too scattered to think clearly. I'm less likely now to white-knuckle my way back to center. More likely to recognize what's happening and make a small adjustment.

That recognition is itself the practice.

You notice the drift, you come back. Off the mat as much as on it. That's the whole thing.

The handstand here is from a morning at Golden Gate Park. Still a conversation. Still imperfect. Still mine.


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